Do What You Want 🤪 If You Want to Be Successful

Consider how much of your time is spent solely on what makes you happy. Embrace the importance of play, as it's pivotal for both success and happiness.
Do What You Want 🤪 If You Want to Be Successful

Fenix’ PepTalk

Would you do what you wanted more... if you knew it were the key to happiness and success?

Mum's got some amazing science below. And a really great 3-step guide to help.

But I've got the best coaching right here... Let Me and My Sister Show You How It's Done.

Love 🐾 #YourHappyCoach, Fenix xoxoxoxo

Do What You Want.


Think about all the things that you do each week. How many of those do you do JUST because they make you happy? Just because you WANT to do them?

How much do you struggle choosing to do something JUST because it makes you happy?

If you’re like the average human, most of your time will be spent working, or making others happy. And it’s hard for us to truly prioritize ourselves amongst all our responsibilities, to choose to do something that is JUST PURELY for FUN.

But consider this…“Play is the single most significant factor in determining our success & happiness.”1

And Julie Scharper writes in Science & Technology2: “Play might just be the most important act we can engage in. Depression, anxiety, and irritability are all symptoms of a lack of play.”

So today’s Step-by-Step Guide supports us getting really practical about freeing us up to do more of What We Want – of What Makes us Happy!

If we truly believed playing were the most important and healthy thing we could do for ourselves, what moments of play would we enjoy today, this week and for the rest of your life?

A Step by Step Guide

How to Free Yourself and Do What You Want...Today

You will need: • 5 minutes + • Pen and paper

  1. First, we’re going to get your playful, child-like, fun and free parts of your brain flowing a little more. So get your pen and paper and write at the top of the page: “I want to...” And now complete that as many times as you can. They don’t have to be practical, realistic or rational. Just write as quickly as you can. For example: I want to…  • go to Paris • sew the dress in my closet into a skirt • play in the backyard • go to that new restaurant across town • swim in the ocean • see my nephew • paint a picture of the flowers in the front yard • watch Toy Story again… 
  2. Next, we’re going to open to what’s present today. So write at the top of the page: “Today I could…” And complete it as many times as you can. Don’t make any decisions. Just write. For example: Today I could…  • sew that old dress in my closet into a new skirt • go to that restaurant across town • go to the beach • drive to the park and have a picnic with my husband • facetime my nephew in Australia • paint • cook • garden • take a nap...
  3. Awesome work! Now it’s time to let your inner 5-year old choose! Ask your 5-year-old self to choose which they want to do today! If it’s something that requires more time than you have, either ask them to choose again, or check inside to see if you could make a little more time to have fun?
  4. Pro Tip 🏆 Schedule some play time on your calendar every day. Even if it’s only 5 minutes. Help get yourself in the habit of allowing yourself time Just to do what Makes You Happy!

From Dr. Zoë

I just wanted to drop you a quick note to remind you of something important: the power of doing what you want.

In a world filled with obligations and expectations, it's easy to lose sight of our own desires and dreams. But I believe that embracing the freedom to do what truly makes us happy is essential for our well-being and fulfillment.

Whether it's pursuing a passion, taking a spontaneous trip, or simply spending time doing what brings you joy, I encourage you to seize those moments and make them your own.

Life is too short to be confined by boundaries or societal norms. So, take a step back, evaluate what truly matters to you, and fearlessly pursue it.

Remember, your happiness and satisfaction matter. Don't hesitate to embrace the freedom to do what you want.

We love you. Fenix and Zoë 🤗


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Dr. Zoë & Fenix

Dr. Zoë & Fenix

The ultimate happy coaching combo. Fenix supports humans be their best selves and beyond. Dr. Zoë adds a little science and strategy.

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