We Grow with Love 🌼

We Have the Power to Grow

We all have the power to let ourselves off the many ‘hooks’ we put ourselves ‘on’ through our life.

We hold back from living the life we want, because at some point we bought into the misbelief (the hooks) that we’re not worthy, not good enough, not ‘something’ enough. And these misbeliefs become like invisible (unconscious) blocks to enjoying and living life to the fullest.

At the Heart of Unworthiness and Not-Enoughness are Judgments

If you feel bad about being “not skinny enough” we’ll find conditioning (or neurological wiring) anchored in a judgment that being overweight / fat is bad, wrong, ‘should not be’. Maybe you were valued and loved more when you lost weight. Or being skinny was highly valued in your house.

Or if you feel bad about seeming unsuccessful in your career, we might find various judgments against being stupid, or lazy, or being a failure or loser. All most humans fall into the unhealthy misbelief that it’s bad, wrong or less not to win, or be successful and powerful.

And these judgments holds us back often because they ARE invisible or unconscious. [1]

We often don’t notice that we’re feeling ‘not skinny enough’ when we’re in a group of people until we feel anxious and bad about ourself but we don’t know why.

Or we find ourselves not having energy or motivation for our work day because we’re unconsciously feeling so critical and bad about ourselves.

When we forgive ourselves for all that we've been holding against ourself, we feel so much lighter, freer and so much more loved.

DR ZOE LUMIERE

Forgiveness Lets Us Off the Hook

If we want to let go of the ways we hold ourselves back, we need to learn how to forgive ourselves more effectively. We need to forgive ourselves for the many judgments we have against ourselves.

As we forgive ourselves for buying into the judgments that it’s not ok to be fat, or it’s not ok to be lazy, we find ourselves releasing patterns of weight and procrastination.

It’s hard to do because it IS a paradox.

If we want to lose weight, we need to expand into the kind of compassion that loves us even if we DON’T lose weight.

If we want to show up for great productivity and achievement in the world, we need to learn to love and be supportive of ourselves even if we DON’T do all that we hope.

Forgiving the Judgments Frees Up Our Energy to Change and Move Forward

If you want to let go of anything you’re doing in this world – forgive yourself for it. Forgive yourself for every time you’ve ever done that pattern. All negative patterns were created as coping mechanisms to protect you at some earlier time – so forgive it and forgive you so you can let it go.