If we truly show up for the adventures of grief in our life, we experience a gratitude beyond any other we’ll ever know.
Our courage to grieve, gives us more love, connection and abundance. But it’s not for the faint of heart.
I’ve included an excerpt from our book ‘The Blue Healer’ below as our guide today.
I hope it’s inspiring.
I hope it inspires you to feel, to grieve, but most importantly to courageously keep connecting with the loved ones that have passed over 🌈
And YES 🙌 I hope it inspires you to PreOrder the book too (if you haven’t already 😉 )
Reconnecting Over the Rainbow 🌈
Reconnecting with your loved ones can be one of the most healing steps in your journey of grieving. And it can greatly impact your overall health and happiness. I understand this is a broad statement, but from my experience, reconnecting with those who have passed can help us see life differently. It encourages us to recognize the connection and continuity of life, which can be incredibly healing and meaningful. Not just as an idea or information. But as an experience that changes the frequency and vibration we live in.
Reconnecting with my Mum
It was about eight years after my mum had passed away, and I was around 22 years old. I had started meditating and studying with my spiritual teacher, which opened me up to the idea that life doesn’t end when our bodies do. By that time, I had been meditating and exploring spirituality for about four years.
One day, I came home from work, and something remarkable happened. I felt an overwhelming sense of my mum’s love. It filled me completely, like a waterfall of the softest, warmest white light. In that moment, I heard her voice saying, “We are one.”
I understood then that she wasn’t just talking about our connection as mother and daughter, or as two souls even. She was expressing a deeper truth—that we are all connected. Every living being, every soul, every thing with life force—this includes animals, trees, and the ocean—we are all one.
Since that experience, I’ve been able to relax and enjoy life so much more. Again I can’t explain it. It might not make sense intellectually, but from that moment on I just knew that my mum was with me. That she was always with me. And that we are all always one.
The Essence of Reconnection
We can connect with anyone we love by going within ourselves and experiencing this oneness—the love that is the essence of who we all are.
I believe we all have intuition and spiritual awareness, even if we're not fully conscious of it. This source of love, often referred to as spirit or God, connects us all. It doesn’t matter what name we use or even if we believe in it at all. The only thing that truly matters is being open to the possibility of its existence. After all, life can be pretty wild and strange, right? While it might be tough to prove that our entire reality is limited to our physical existence, I think it’s even harder to prove with complete certainty that we do not continue on in some way after our physical bodies die.
As we open to the possibility of reconnecting with loved ones, I want to clarify that I’m not referring to channeling spirits or becoming a medium. I’m simply sharing my personal experience. What has worked wonderfully for me and my clients is a simple and straightforward practice that we will explore together.
While our Chapter 8 Guide will provide full instructions on how to maximize this life-changing opportunity, I want to give you an overview and highlight a few specifics here.
So the simplest overview for reconnecting to a loved one, is to close your eyes and invite your loved one into your consciousness. Call their name and use a blend of imagination, intention, intuition, and any other gifts you may have to connect with their essence.
For example, even though my husband is currently playing pickleball while I write this, I can close my eyes and bring him into my mind, heart and body. I can feel his love for me and my love for him, experiencing our relationship as alive and vibrant within me, with my eyes closed.
Whether my husband is across town or Ellie is across that Rainbow Bridge, the truth remains: our love for them never dies, and their love for us remains. We are always connected.
The Power of Your Brain and the Courage of Your Heart.
Initially, reconnecting can be incredibly painful as we face deep sadness from losing their physical presence. Our bodies endure the grief of separation, and it can feel like those attachments are being torn from our consciousness. However, in our own time and when it feels right, we can reconnect with their inner essence. This process allows us to experience a profound and healing relationship with our loved ones, no matter where they are.
It’s interesting to note that our brain stays connected to loved ones who have passed away. Our brains are truly amazing. This may be an understatement, but I want to highlight the power of our imagination and how it’s relevant to our ongoing relationship with our loved ones.
Our bodies can react physically to what we imagine, and it's truly amazing. For instance, research indicates that when we visualize ourselves lifting weights, our muscles can actually become larger and stronger. Similarly, just thinking about biting into a freshly cut lemon can trigger our salivary glands to produce saliva and enzymes, making us feel that sharp burst of sourness that excites our taste buds.
So just consider, that even if your loved one is no longer with you, you can still maintain a connection with them through your imagination. It’s often easy to remember how they would respond in certain situations and how they would comfort you with their hugs when you’re feeling down. Their memory and essence remain alive in your neural pathways.
You only need the courage to guess and imagine what your loved one would say and do. Trust that you have a sense of this in your mind. In the next chapter, we will talk about how to receive responses and have a two-way conversation with your loved one. For now, I want to emphasize the vibrancy and authenticity of your relationship. Stay open to the fact that your connection with your loved one is still very real.
It’s Okay if You Can’t Reconnect Right Now. Trust Your Timing.
And if you find that you can’t remember, feel, guess, or be aware of how your loved one would respond to you, or what their hugs and licks feel like, or if you simply can’t imagine them at all, that’s okay. It’s completely normal. When you close your eyes and call their name, not being able to see them, feel them, or sense them is part of your body's natural defense. And it’s healthy and supporting you in your own gentle timing.
And it’s the experience in this chapter that might prove very helpful in clearing any blocks to naturally receiving reconnection with your loved one if you’d like to try it at this time. This experience is simply writing your loved one a letter.
Writing a letter to someone without the intention of sending it is a valuable healing tool whether the being is alive physically or not. This technique helps people express their feelings, clarify their thoughts, and find relief. By allowing ourselves to say everything we’ve been holding in, we can finally release those emotions and experience a much-needed sense of relief.
A Letter to Our Loved Ones
Writing a letter to your loved one, often brings forth a strong wave of loving feelings for our loved one. It’s a chance to share the feelings we’ve kept inside for so long.
If you've been struggling to cry or connect with your feelings, or if you've been feeling stuck and numb, this might be just what you need right now.
Before we get started, I want to encourage you to embrace the chance for a deep emotional release and to relax your nervous system. We all have moments when something happens in everyday life, and we feel like there’s something left unsaid. It’s as if the experience isn’t complete or resolved. Until we address it or share our feelings, that pressure can sit inside us, unconscious and constant.
Having the courage to express everything you want to say in an open and honest way can relieve that emotional pressure. It will help balance your nervous system and shift you away from any negative fight or flight responses you may be experiencing during your grief, guiding you back to a healthier and more loving place. It’s a powerful tool.
Writing a letter is a powerful way to express your emotions and connect with your loved one. The great thing is, you can write a letter as many times as you like. It’s not just about sharing specific details; it's about having the courage to convey your feelings—whether they are love, anger, or sadness. This process can be healing and supportive, helping you navigate the transition of not having them physically present while recognizing that your bond can still grow and deepen over time. Embrace the experience of writing as a meaningful way to honor your relationship and express your authentic emotions repeatedly.
I hope this process is as healing for you as it has been for me. I’ve written to Ellie many times. While I usually enjoy having conversations with her (which we’ll do in the next chapter), there are times when I love writing her a letter and letting my feelings flow freely onto the page in this very simple and profoundly healing form.
