Releasing Triggers & Trauma 🕊️

What to Do When You Feel Triggered

By now, it’s clear that everyone deals with some form of trauma, whether it's the smaller, everyday kind or deeper, more profound experiences. Regardless of the scale, we all encounter moments where we're triggered, causing our nervous system and emotions to tighten up, trapping us in negative or restrictive patterns.

It could be something like feeling unimportant when a friend cancels plans or feeling a surge of anger when another driver cuts you off. Whatever the trigger, we all face these reactions at times.

Simple in Theory, Hard in Practice

Last night's workshop dived into this more, but here's the core message: When triggered, we can rewire our brains from a reactive, fight-or-flight mode to a more balanced and open state by doing two key things:

1. Acknowledge and allow the physical response of being triggered.
2. Show yourself deep compassion, acceptance, and love during those moments.

It takes practice, but it's possible!

Let’s dive deeply into this skill with the Sacred Workout today… 👇

A Sacred Self-Healing Workout 💪 Transforming traumatic triggered responses into health and expansion.

This guide is one of the ones we use often in our Allowing.Love™ small group coaching programs.

Mastering your ability to transform your triggers will support you in continuing to let go of your limitations and negative patterns, so that you’re able to more fully show up in Love, Trust and Empowerment for you and all of life.

1. Allow an embodied physiological experience of our response.
   1. If we felt abandoned when our friend cancelled coffee, instead of jumping straight into our mind and thinking about what we did, or what we can do to get them to love us…STOP. And FEEL that feeling in your body. Feel it so fully until you’re feeling the physiological response in your body. That might be a tightness in your stomach, or an ache in your heart.
   2. If we felt rage when we get cut off, instead of going into blame and justifying in your own mind why you were right and they were wrong…STOP. And FEEL that feeling in your body. Feel it so fully until you’re feeling the physiological response in your body. That might be fiery daggers coming out your eyes, or intense tightness in your shoulders.
2. Allow an authentic experience of compassion, understanding and kindness for these feelings.
   1. At the same time that your body is feeling the response, have compassion, softness and kind, loving support for what your body is going through.
   2. You can say: I hear you. I see you. I love you.
   3. The most important aspect of this compassion is acceptance. Let go of any part of you that needs to change or fix anything in this moment.
3. For some deep and long-held traumas you might need another to first imprint and pattern that authentic experience of compassion for you. It might be very challenging to do both in the same moment. But it is possible.
4. Start with smaller triggers, and work your way up to bigger ones. And use a loved one, or a healing professional to support you in imprinting this empathic, compassionate response to help you expand into your own compassionate healing powers.