Learning how to rewire shame back to Love is life-changing.
In my experience, folks often miss out on this life-changing technique because it seems too simple.
It's like raising your hands on a rollercoaster - easy to say, not so easy to do.
In order to transform shame, anger, anxiety, or anything else we want to let go of – we consciously let go: of every single ‘thing’ we are holding onto right now.
Michael Singer describes the process powerfully in his book "The Untethered Soul".
Today's workout involves relaxation and releasing negative emotions such as feelings of shame, fear, overwhelm, and anxiety.
‘The Highest Technique’, according to Spiritual Teacher Michael Singer
This technique is described in great detail in the book The Untethered Soul (I highly recommend reading it). But the foundation for this technique is a Universal Spiritual truth running through all spiritual healing modalities.
In essence, all dis-ease and negative experience (including shame, fear, anxiety, depression) begins with a contraction of energy that becomes stuck in our body. The ‘cure’ is to expand, to relax and release all parts of our consciousness allowing the stuck energy (or Samskara).
Just think of a negative experience – like shame or sadness. Can you find the contraction? Can you find a contraction in your body, in your thoughts, and in your emotions?
You might be aware that in moments when you’re connected to shame it seems like ALL of you is contracting. All of you is closing in. Almost like we feel and WANT a huge black hole to swallow us whole.
So simply, the technique is to kindly, gently and lovingly expand. Expand your energy and body first. You’ll notice that if you do that eventually all other levels of your consciousness will follow. But instead of closing, we learn to expand. We relax. And we release.
Your Rewiring back to Love™ Workout 💪 Clearing Self-Judgment and Blocks from the Past
It can be helpful to remember that you can take action and make changes about this situation AFTER you’ve done this exercise. This technique does NOT REPLACE making changes and taking action in a practical way – but you will NOT see your life clearly while this contraction is present. Handle the contraction in your energy and body, and which loving expansive actions are the best to take will be abundantly clear AFTER you’ve done this exercise.
- First choose a situation that can trigger a negative experience for you. You can choose anyone that you want. You can trust the one that pops into your consciousness first. Or feel free to find the one that is the most challenging for you in your life right now.
- Describe the situation. Let yourself feel and think negatively – and write it down freely and without censorship. Now is the time to blame, and complain and have a tantrum or a pity party, as fully and completely as you can.
- Be aware of the energy in your body. Where do you feel the contraction? The tension, the tightness, the pain, the discomfort, the negative sensation?! Write it down. Describe it in as much detail as you can.
- Now be aware that the real you – the Soul – the Authentic Self is the part of you that is observing, watching, holding for this experience. You are NOT the negative energy. You are experiencing the negative energy. You have the power to let go of ANYTHING that is NOT YOU.
- So just now, for a minute, practice relaxing, expanding, releasing that contraction or negative experience completely. Use your imagination. Use your body. Use your breathing. Use your loving. Use your prayer. Use whatever shows up for you uniquely, to support you in relaxing and releasing this stuck, contracted energy within!
Personal Note ✍️
Maybe around the time you’re reading this, we’ll be at our first Rehab Session with Ellie.
If you’re still reading, firstly thank you, and you’re amazing. You must really be invested in loving yourself and upgrading your life into the joy, love and connection you deserve. Good for you.
But because clearly you’re invested, I’ll share some more vulnerable, personal deets with you.
Helping Ellie has been bringing me to my knees. Many times a day. She has a lot of trauma and pain inside.
And it’s also been bringing me to my past trauma, helping me heal the Little Zoe that felt abandoned, unsupported and abused.
Every single one of our present day challenges, is showing us the parts within us that need Love, understanding and more support.
So whether you’re being challenged by something or some being in the outside world, or something or some part inside of you, please remember it’s all showing you how to Love MORE.
And if we will. If we’ll love ourself our feelings and our past fully, we will release the old ‘shameful’ ways we shut down, separate and isolate. And we find ourselves being led by our higher nature: Love. We find ourselves rewired back to Love.
We love you! Dr. Zoë and Fenix and Ellie xo.
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