It's tough to fully embrace life as it is, right? To accept your life just as it is.
I have a laundry list of things I'd love to tweak...
But Maybe One of the Biggest Misconceptions Holding People Back in Life…
Is that acceptance holds us back from actually being a part of positive change.
Accepting something does NOT mean endorsing, promoting or even agreeing with something.
It means coming into harmony with the fact that it exists.
We think that denying or refusing to accept that something exists – will change it.
But when we really think about that (and not listen to our anger or fear) we can easily see that not accepting something exists – is pretty ridiculous.
I mean, what is – is.
And we can’t positively affect anything – if we can’t meet it face to face.
We need to come into some level of harmony – some cooperation with life – in order to move from here in a positive direction.
If You Fight It – You Give it Your Power
What we resist – persists.
And what we accept – we have the opportunity to change with our acceptance and love.
That means what we fight or resist in our life – has power over us – and will continue to drain our energy until we accept and release our resistance.
Living in resistance creates anger, exhaustion, over-control, and hundreds of other experiences that will hold us back from happiness AND health.
Your Radical Acceptance Workout 💪
Powerful Change by Letting Go of Resistance
- Choose the thing you find it most challenging to accept – to be ok with – even though it exists. It can be a dysfunction in the world – or a dysfunction in yourself. World Example: Current Shelter Crisis Personal Example: Drink too much
- First, let yourself complain, blame and call names. Give your resistance a voice. An uncensored voice. Let it write as much as it wants. Let it get as negative as it wants. Really allow yourself to let off some steam, and rant and rave. World Example [Current Shelter Crisis]: It’s terrible. People are useless. They’ve got to do better. This is not ok… Personal Example [Drink too much]: It can’t continue. It’s got to stop. You’re pathetic and weak. Just stop it. Just change.
- Now imagine Wholeness, Health and Complete Change. In your imagination, see and experience your ideal outcome. World Example [Current Shelter Crisis]: I’m seeing all dogs have homes and be loved and cared for. Personal Example [Drink too much]: I’m seeing myself drink only in healthy, self-loving, balanced ways.
- Now ask yourself – What’s holding you back from being OK, while this exists? What lie is keeping you from acceptance? World Example [Current Shelter Crisis]: I feel like I should be doing more. I feel like it’s my fault. I feel bad for not doing more. I feel like I’m somehow responsible and a part of the problem, even though I know it couldn’t be further from the truth. The lie is that I’m responsible for this problem. Personal Example [Drink too much]: I feel just so stupid and weak and pathetic for not being able to show up perfectly and say no more. I think I’m afraid I might be like some of my relatives, that let themself get really sick and dysfunctional. But when I think about it like that, I can really see that I’m not even close to that. The lie is that I’m gonna end up sick and dead.
- Now use statements of self-forgiveness to release that lie from your consciousness. Say: “I forgive myself for buying into the lie that… “ Keep saying and completing that sentence until you feel still and silent inside. World Example [Current Shelter Crisis]: I forgive myself for buying into the lie that I’m responsible and a part of the problem… Personal Example [Drink too much]: I forgive myself for buying into the lie that I’m weak and pathetic…
- Now experience the truth and allow yourself to experience greater okness, health, happiness and wealth in all areas of your life, even though you’re not perfect, and hte world’s not perfect either. Say: “AND The truth is that I am… “ Keep completing your truth until you feel Whole, Healthy and overflowing with Love. World Example [Current Shelter Crisis]: And the truth is that I’m doing a great job and being a part of positive change. Personal Example [Drink too much]: And the truth is that I’m doing my best, and am super healthy!
- Now in this more accepting and cooperative space – what action are you called to take?! Let yourself see what feels aligned and empowered. World Example [Current Shelter Crisis]: I’m going to go down to my local shelter this weekend and see what I can do to help. And I’m going to keep on just doing my best. Personal Example [Drink too much]: I’m going to allow myself to really enjoy having a glass of wine at dinner on Saturday night for Jane’s birthday! And I’m going to keep doing my best.
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