Making Life Flow Better with Love and Connection
Dogs—and some people, too—know that love is what keeps the world moving.
A major part of letting love help us grow, succeed, and connect with each other is our communication.
But real communication isn’t just about talking or choosing the right words.
In fact, research suggests that up to 93% of communication is nonverbal. [1]
Your Message Might Not Be What You Think It Is
No matter how skilled we think we are at expressing ourselves, there’s always a chance our message isn’t quite what we intended.
We focus so much on getting the words right, yet our tone, facial expressions, body language, and eye contact might tell a different story.
Today, let’s explore the ways we can improve our nonverbal communication to express our true feelings with greater authenticity.
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Communicating with Your Heart
We’re going to play with our non-verbal expression, touch and the tone of our voice today, to become more aware of how we can create closer and happier relationships.
1. Become aware of One Person in your life that you would love to feel closer to. And perhaps that you would also like to have a ‘happier’ relationship with, i.e. you share more happy moments together. Write down the name of that person.
2. What is the most important message you want this person to know. I know it’s a little morbid, but you can consider what would you want them to know, if you were never able to communicate to them again? Write down your answer. It’s ok to feel and be vulnerable as you write down this very important message.
3. Now consider how you would communicate this message in your face, in your expression? Write down your answer. Do your best to describe it.
4. How would you communicate this message with touch? Write down your answer. Can you give yourself permission to really FEEL this?! Let it soften your heart and connect you to your loving within.
5. Finally, what would be the tone of your voice? Write it down. Describe it as best you can in writing.
6. Now imagine what would happen to your relationship, if you communicated with these 3 keys: Review answers for Questions 3, 4 and 5. These are your communication keys for this person. Regardless if WHAT you’re communicating to them in words, consider that you can communicate with the energy and loving of your 3 keys.
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