Listening is Loving 🥰

Really Listening is Radical

It’s so easy to be distracted these days, and our ability to listen suffers. Whether we’re looking at a screen, or worrying about our many large responsibilities, or concerned with the many crises on the planet… it’s easy to be distracted and not a great listener. [1]

And even when we’re NOT distracted, when we’re present and we ‘think’ we’re truly listening: we’re not. Most of the time we are waiting to respond or making assumptions about what we’re hearing, rather than actually listening to truly understand the other person. [2]

If You Want More Love, Support, Community & Connection…

Commit to doing more Radical Listening.

Use these 3 keys for Allowing.Love™ Radical Listening.

1. Listen to understand. That’s the only goal. Listen so intently that you understand where they’re coming from.
2. Listen to feel. Can you feel what they’re saying?
3. Listen to experience. Let go of your world, and travel into theirs. If you listen radically, you can experience what they’re saying.

Compassion is what our world needs right now 🌎

Radical listening works wonders for personal relationships and life fulfillment. But it’s also a powerful and required skill for healing social and political divides.

We are more polarized and more divided in our social views than ever before; we desperately need an antidote. And Kathryn Thomson (leadership consultant and coach with LeadershipMind Consulting) believes that Radical Listening is that antidote.

Drawing on insights from neuroscience and developmental psychology, Katherine believes that Radical Listening is required both to evolve our brain’s neural wiring: using a greater ability to listen, have compassion, and understand another’s point of view. [3]

Radical listening does have the ability to save relationships, family breakdowns, and people from isolation. And maybe it EVEN has the ability to save the world from political and social crises?!?

A Sacred Workout for Radical Listening 👂 Growing our sacred muscles for active, compassionate listening

Let’s learn how to implement the 3 keys of Allowing.Love™ Radical Listening as an every day skill and area of growth!

1. The first, and most important aspect of radical listening, is to keep in mind that the point of this conversation is for Connection, not for fixing, solving, or even thinking. Care more about experiencing a deep emotional connection and understanding who they are as a person, more than anything else.
2. In order to be able to Listen to Understand it’s valuable to remember:
   1. Humans are different. It’s truly impossible to ever fully understand how different we are. But it’s powerful to remember that we have been raised differently, we have different strengths and weaknesses, we have different dreams and hurts in our hearts.
   2. Humans are similar. We all want the same thing, no matter who we are, or where we’re from. We want to be loved, respected, and happy.
   3. So lean into the experiences you share. Don’t get stuck and focus on your differences. Focus on what unites you.
3. Next, consider these tips for being able to authentically Feel what you are listening to:
   1. You’re going to have to let go of ‘your world’ in order to empathetically feel and experience ‘their world’. So let go of your reference points, assumptions, and truly try to imagine and experience what it feels like in their shoes.
   2. Be vulnerable. It’s ok to feel, to be moved, to have energy come up inside of you.
4. Finally, in order to Listen to Experience someone else, this means letting go of your ideas of right and wrong, good and bad, and genuinely being open to simply experiencing their world as it is.
   1. Let go of trying to change, fix or solve anything for them.
   2. Let go of any agenda or outcome you’d like for the conversation, beyond experiencing a deeper, more heartfelt connection with this person.

Today's Advanced Resource is A Couples Guide to Tough Conversations.

And yes this works for any kind of close personal relationship, not just ‘couples’.

This 20-minute+ guide will set up clear intentions for your role as the Listener, and as the Sharer, and guide you through how to transition and resolve conflict.

You will also find the References for this Guide below. [1] [2] [3]

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[ADVANCED] Partner Process Here • [TODAY] Guide & References Here