It’s OK to Have Needs 🥹

When We Aren’t Embraced for Who We Are

As children, if we don’t receive a clear and reassuring message that our needs are valid (even the messy, inconvenient ones) and our emotions are acceptable (even the uncomfortable, overwhelming ones), we learn to suppress them.

We internalize the belief that our needs and emotions are unwelcome—maybe even unlovable.

To gain acceptance and love, we adapt by keeping those parts of ourselves hidden.

Hiding Our True Needs and Emotions Makes Us Appealing—But Not Truly Known

We become experts at people-pleasing, shape-shifters who can blend seamlessly into any situation, molding ourselves into whatever others expect.

This often makes us well-liked. But real love—the deep, lasting kind—requires true connection. And connection isn’t possible when others never see the real us.

We can like almost anyone, but we only truly love those we know deeply.

True belonging doesn't require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are.

DR. BRENÉ BROWN

If You Crave Deeper Connection, Start Revealing More of Yourself

Shifting from the protective masks we wore in childhood to embracing our true selves is a difficult but rewarding journey.

Be patient and compassionate with yourself as you take steps—however small—to show up more authentically in the world.

This guide is here to support you in opening up, allowing your vulnerable, genuine self to be seen, and ultimately fostering more meaningful and intimate connections with others.

If you’re unpacking deep and old trauma there’s a good chance you might need some professional support to establish some foundational trust within. I am available for sessions. And there are amazing qualified professionals all over the world 🌎

And… diving deeply into your own Self-Healing will support this process profoundly.