When We're Not Valued for Who We Are
As children, if we're not consistently taught that our needs are valid (even the messy, inconvenient ones) and our feelings are acceptable (even the uncomfortable or overwhelming ones), we start to bury those parts of ourselves.
We internalize the belief that our needs and emotions make us unworthy or unlovable.
In our quest to be accepted, we learn to hide those aspects of ourselves from others.
The Cost of Suppressing Ourselves
By becoming people-pleasers or shapeshifters who mold ourselves to fit what others desire, we often achieve likability.
But there's a catch: while people may like the surface version of us, true love and deep connection remain elusive.
To love someone, we must truly know them—and others can’t love the parts of us we keep hidden.
Building Real Connections Requires Courage
Shifting from the protective patterns we developed to survive—toward revealing our authentic selves—is a brave and gradual process.
It takes patience, compassion, and time.
With kindness toward yourself, take small steps to uncover and share more of who you are.
Today, consider how showing up authentically can pave the way for deeper, more meaningful relationships.
A Sacred Healing Workout ❤️🩹
Acknowledging Our Needs and Feelings
If you’re unpacking deep and old trauma there’s a good chance you might need some professional support to establish some foundational trust within. I am available for sessions. And there are amazing qualified professionals all over the world 🌎
And… diving deeply into your own Self-Healing will support this process profoundly.
- What needs of yours were NOT received well when you were younger?
- How can you share 3% - 7% more of your needs with trusted people in your world? Heartstorm just a few ways you can share more authentically and vulnerably.
- How can you share 30% - 70% more of your needs with YOURSELF? Can you keep a journal, or have some other way of acknowledging your own needs at least to yourself?
- What feelings of yours were NOT heard and honored well when you were younger?
- How can you share 3% - 7% more of your feelings with trusted people in your world? Heartstorm just a few ways you can share more authentically and vulnerably.
- How can you share 30% - 70% more of your feelings with YOURSELF? Can you keep a journal, or have some other way of vulnerably feelings and expressing your emotions at least with yourself?!
This is not easy stuff. This is not for the faint of heart. And remember if you need to talk to a human being - there are many FREE helplines available to ANYONE ANY TIME. https://findahelpline.com/
