I know it sounds cute, or maybe even childish, but I AM writing this book with Ellie 🐶.
I always thought I'd write a book about compassionate grieving, but I thought it would be about losing my Mum when I was 14. She died of ovarian cancer after a long and brutal 3-year battle. It sent my life into a downward spiral filled with addiction and dysfunction: alcohol, drugs, workaholism and an eating disorder. For two decades, I struggled to cope because I avoided actively grieving.
Finally, I made the decision to face my pain head-on. By approaching my grief with compassion and spiritual awareness, I discovered invaluable gifts within myself. This journey not only put me on a new path but also helped me uncover my true purpose. Ultimately, it transformed my life completely.
So of course I was committed to grieving the loss of Ellie's fur body. But I was NOT prepared for what followed.
I'll try to bottomline it now for you – but really I want you to preorder the book and read the whole adventure and much much more 😉 [The book is both our story and detailed guide for how to compassionately grieve for healing and uncovering your gifts and greatness]
Grieving an Animal is Different
They are so pure and innocent, and they can also feel like a tangible part of who you are. It can feel as if you are losing the best part of yourself, as though you are losing the source of all your joy and connection.
But Reconnecting with You Rainbow Animal is Mind Blowing
I talk to my Mum all the time. Yep the one that died 30 years ago. She's so real and alive inside of me. It's like I have her around all the time. It's lovely.
And so because I already have such a lovely relationship with death and loved ones that have transitioned, I thought I was prepared for grieving and reconnecting with Ellie 🐶
Maybe because I spent so many hours every day talking with her, and because back then the talking I had with her – was actually just the talking that was taking place inside of me. I was guessing what she was saying to me. It was all in my own heart already. But the big, bold energy I feel inside as Ellie now, continues to blow me away. And continues to give me clarity and courage for my life.
Yes. At first there was no connection. There was no joy. There was nothing but pain.
And the pain was more profound than I expected. The days were darker and more desolate that I would wish on my worst enemies.
But...
On the fourth day after I held her perfect fur body in my arms and she crossed that Rainbow Bridge 🌈, I was in the back of the car, falling apart yet again. My husband and my mother-in-law were driving us away for the weekend so I could grieve and also give Fenix the attention and adventures he had been missing while I cared for Ellie. I was silently sobbing in the backseat when I closed my eyes and called her name, and she was there—smiling, loving me, waiting for me. 😭
I know. It sounds cute and cheesy. But Ellie told me to write this book. And she keeps telling me to do things. And it's not just the ideas that I feel like I get from her inside – it's the boldness, the bravery, the actual courageous action I get to actually do them.
Well it's like nothing I have ever experienced. And it has further confirmed inner experiences I have been having about what the Animal Kingdom is. They're here to guide us, show us, teach us. If we'll let them.
Compassionately and spiritually grieving our animals is one of the most important adventures we'll ever go on.
Yes it's gonna hurt. It's going to be one of the most painful things you'll ever do. But avoiding that pain will create far more challenge in your life. And if you grieve this pain, you'll probably be able to heal and rewire much of the old unexpressed pain from your past too.
So Ellie and I are on a mission to help anyone who's willing to learn how to use their grief to transform their lives.
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