Your Emotions are Trying to Rescue You.
It’s easy to feel that our negative emotions are just a hassle. An unnecessary experience blocking us from being able to show up in the world how we want to.
But what if our emotions are showing us a very important imbalance deep inside our psyche?
As we learn how to allow our emotions and the information they can help us access – we begin to grow and rewire for growth and success. [1] [2]
Fenix' PepTalk 🐾
All dogs are here to rescue you humans. Let us show you how to live with greater emotional freedom and expression. We’re here to help you allow your emotions to fuel and guide you forward!
PepWalk 🐾
Emotions are MASSIVELY Misunderstood 🤯
When we feel sad – our head makes up: “It’s cause I didn’t do enough.”
When we feel scared – our head makes up: “See these people can’t be trusted, let’s hide.”
When we feel angry – our head makes up: “They did that on purpose. I’m never doing that again.”
Our head makes up a lot of misbeliefs to try and make sense of how challenging it is to feel our emotions. Brené Brown’s video helps us understand that in this 3-minute video.
We don’t want to feel sad – it’s uncomfortable and sometimes even profoundly painful. So our mind uses blame (mostly self-blame) as a way to find something to fix and control. We then put off having to actually feel sad – and we move into action trying to fix and control.
1 minute for Emotional Rescue
What’s an emotionally challenging moment that you’ve gone through recently? Let yourself feel it, as if it were simple an innocent child inside? Now ask it – what do you need sweet one? Allow it to show you the love and support you need to rescue this part of you moving forward.
When you shut down emotion, you’re also affecting your immune system, your nervous system. So the repression of emotions, which is a survival strategy, then becomes a source of physiological illness later on.
GABOR MATÉ
Learning to simply allow our feeling and find what we need inside – RATHER THAN avoiding our feeling and finding something to fix and control outside – is the heart of Rewiring our Neurology.
Your Sacred Rewiring Workout 💪
Allow Your Emotions to Rescue You
Let’s use a very powerful 5 step process today to learn how to find the magical messages in the mess of our emotions.
- First choose a tough moment from the last week, or more. Today make sure the moment you choose is EITHER:
• Big. In this moment you felt or were aware of pushing down BIG HUGE LARGE feelings. • or Irrational. Maybe someone didn’t text you back and you felt betrayed instantly. • or Repetitive. Maybe over the last few months this same feeling has been showing up in a very of contexts in your life. It might be subtle, but it’s the same in multiple areas of your life. - Next, let your mind and your coping mechanisms have a field day first. Just let yourself describe the tough moment, without any real awareness. Let yourself be immature and just complain, and blame and be all kinds of negative. You’ll probably know this is NOT true… but just have enough courage to write it down anyway. It’s in there unconsciously – so let’s release it by writing it down!
- Next step is to move from our head and into our heart! Remember emotions and feelings are usually only a few words long. I feel sad. I feel lost. I feel small. I feel afraid. In contrast: I feel like she shouldn’t have down that. I really feel like this is the problem with… [those aren’t feelings. Those are the ‘coping or surviving’ thoughts attached to the feeling] Keep feeling until you find the strongest emotion, in just a few words.
- Next step is to ask that strong core (in your body emotion) ‘What do you need sweet child?’ Relate to it with kindness and sweetness like you would to a 5 year old child. It won’t give you it’s powerful message if you’re critical or pushy. And it does take practice, because our head likes to interject with what it THINKS you need. But the FEELING in your body WILL have an answer. It will easily, like a small child does, it will tell you: I feel sad and I need to know I’m good. I feel lost and I just need to know it’s going to be ok. I feel small and I need a hug.
- Final step is hopefully evident… but it’s to life into that Huge Loving Heart that YOU REALLY ARE and give your human feelings what they need. You’ll probably need to use your Divine Imagination in some way. Tell yourself that you are good and give yourself an experience of goodness within. Tell yourself it IS going to be ok (because it IS!!!) and give yourself an experience of okness.
If you commit to growing this muscle – of being soft, and kind, and compassionate and loving when you have tough emotions – miracles WILL happen.
You will start releasing those patterns of smallness and stuckness.
You will start feeling loved, and courageous and like those big, bold, brave dreams in your heart are possible.
If there is one thing I wish for the world it’s this.
Because it’s this profound SACRED SKILL that helped me heal and rewire from sexual abuse, and grieving my mother’s death 20 years later, and continuing to use every tough moment in my 45 year old life, to continue to clear and rewire the tough moments from my childhood.
This is deep nuanced work. Do yourself a favor and join a Sacred Circle Call sometime soon.
I can answer any questions you have. And the Love and community support is a big part of growing.
We love you! Dr. Zoë and Fenix xoxoox and 🌈 Ellie and Eric 👍
