Emotions Are Here to Help You Heal
It’s easy to view our difficult emotions as obstacles. They feel uncomfortable and inconvenient, seemingly standing in the way of our best selves.
But what if these emotions are signals, guiding us toward imbalances within?
When we allow ourselves to feel and explore our emotions, we access insights that help us heal, adapt, and grow.
Over time, this process rewires us for resilience and fulfillment.
Emotions Are Wildly Misinterpreted 🤯
Sadness? Our mind tells us, “It’s because I failed.”
Fear? Our mind says, “People aren’t safe; I need to withdraw.”
Anger? Our mind concludes, “They hurt me on purpose, I’ll avoid this next time.”
Our thoughts often construct stories that make emotions harder to face.
But as Brené Brown highlights, by acknowledging these emotions without rushing to explain them away, we can break free from the blame cycle—especially self-blame. 3-minute video
We often default to fixing or controlling situations rather than feeling the discomfort.
But true growth happens when we face emotions head-on.
Learning to simply allow our feeling and find what we need inside – RATHER THAN avoiding our feeling and finding something to fix and control outside – is the heart of Rewiring our Neurology.
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Allow Your Emotions to Rescue You
Let’s use a very powerful 5 step process today to learn how to find the magical messages in the mess of our emotions.
- First choose a tough moment from the last week, or more. Today make sure the moment you choose is EITHER:
• Big. In this moment you felt or were aware of pushing down BIG HUGE LARGE feelings. • or Irrational. Maybe someone didn’t text you back and you felt betrayed instantly. • or Repetitive. Maybe over the last few months this same feeling has been showing up in a very of contexts in your life. It might be subtle, but it’s the same in multiple areas of your life. - Next, let your mind and your coping mechanisms have a field day first. Just let yourself describe the tough moment, without any real awareness. Let yourself be immature and just complain, and blame and be all kinds of negative. You’ll probably know this is NOT true… but just have enough courage to write it down anyway. It’s in there unconsciously – so let’s release it by writing it down!
- Next step is to move from our head and into our heart! Remember emotions and feelings are usually only a few words long. I feel sad. I feel lost. I feel small. I feel afraid. In contrast: I feel like she shouldn’t have down that. I really feel like this is the problem with… [those aren’t feelings. Those are the ‘coping or surviving’ thoughts attached to the feeling] Keep feeling until you find the strongest emotion, in just a few words.
- Next step is to ask that strong core (in your body emotion) ‘What do you need sweet child?’ Relate to it with kindness and sweetness like you would to a 5 year old child. It won’t give you it’s powerful message if you’re critical or pushy. And it does take practice, because our head likes to interject with what it THINKS you need. But the FEELING in your body WILL have an answer. It will easily, like a small child does, it will tell you: I feel sad and I need to know I’m good. I feel lost and I just need to know it’s going to be ok. I feel small and I need a hug.
- Final step is hopefully evident… but it’s to life into that Huge Loving Heart that YOU REALLY ARE and give your human feelings what they need. You’ll probably need to use your Divine Imagination in some way. Tell yourself that you are good and give yourself an experience of goodness within. Tell yourself it IS going to be ok (because it IS!!!) and give yourself an experience of okness.
Grow Your Compassionate Core for Miracles to Unfold
By embracing a gentle, kind, and compassionate approach to your challenging emotions, you’ll begin to release patterns that keep you feeling small and stuck.
You’ll start feeling braver, more loved, and better able to pursue your big dreams.
If I could wish one thing for the world, it would be this: the ability to approach emotions with tenderness and curiosity.
Learning this has been a sacred skill for me, guiding me through healing from past traumas and ongoing challenges in my 45 years.
This work is subtle and transformative. Give yourself the gift of a Sacred Circle Call to experience a supportive community that helps nurture this growth.
With love, Dr. Zoë, Fenix, 🌈 Ellie, and Eric
