We all have Big Feelings and Special Needs sometimes!
We all have them and it's important to express them so we can let them go and learn how to love ourselves.
Have you ever felt like you couldn't share your emotions or needs with your loved ones or even with yourself? It's understandable when we're afraid of judgment or rejection.
I sometimes feel like I need to be perfect, but my Mom always reminds me that it's okay to have down days, pity parties, and big feelings.
If you ever need someone to hold space for your big feelings with love, acceptance, and compassion, my Mom and I are here for you.
We want you to know that it's natural and healthy to feel your emotions.
I love you 🐾 Fenixoxo
Learning to Feel: The Science-Backed Strategy for Health & Happiness
Did you grow up hearing phrases like "Boys don't cry" and "Good girls are always sweet"? Research has shown that we are all conditioned not to feel and express our emotions in healthy ways during childhood. Brené Brown discusses this issue in a 30-second video .
Relational Neuroscience has shown that repressed emotions create faulty wiring in our neural pathways, leading to behaviors that hold us back from connection, authenticity, and joy. . Learning to express your emotions and needs can help rewire these pathways, and it's simpler than you may think.
To start, when you're experiencing an emotional moment, try moving from your head into your body. What do you feel physically? Accept and embrace your feelings, and let the energy out a little by expressing how you feel. Finally, drop into compassion for yourself and acknowledge that life can be hard sometimes.
Research has shown that criticism and fault-finding hinder positive change in your life. If you want to grow and change, you need to have compassion for yourself   . Recognize that life can be tough, and be kind to yourself. You're doing your best, so don't beat yourself up when things don't go well. Instead, try finding kindness and softness to help you let go of what's not working.
References     
 Brown, B. (2012). Daring greatly: How the courage to be vulnerable transforms the way we live, love, parent, and lead. Penguin.
 Cozolino, L. (2017). The Neuroscience of Psychotherapy: Healing the Social Brain (3rd ed.). W. W. Norton & Company.
 Gilbert, P., Catarino, F., Duarte, C., Matos, M., Kolts, R., Stubbs, J., Ceresatto, L., Duarte, J., Pinto-Gouveia, J., & Basran, J. (n.d.). The development of compassionate engagement and action scales for self and others. Journal of Compassionate Health Care, 4(1), 4. https://jcompassionatehc.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s40639-017-0033-3
 Kris, D. F. (n.d.). How Self-Compassion Supports Academic Motivation and Emotional Wellness. KQED. Retrieved from https://www.kqed.org/mindshift/52854/how-self-compassion-supports-academic-motivation-and-emotional-wellness
 Riopel, L., & Nash, J. (2019, June 2). 15 Most Interesting Self-Compassion Research Findings. Positive Psychology. Retrieved from https://positivepsychology.com/self-compassion-research/#research