Be Grateful for What Grows Ya! 🪜

This is tough stuff today… but it may be life changing.

Together, we’re going to find more gratitude for the challenges that are growing and strengthening us.

Until life challenges us, we don’t find our SuperHero sources of Courage and Love. Until we need to dig deep… life can feel shallow.

I’m so glad me and Mum and Dad have been through lots of tough stuff together, because it’s helped us truly know and feel what we mean to each other.

Love 🐾 #YourHappyCoach, Fenix xoxo

Challenges are an inevitable part of life. No matter how much we try to avoid them, they will always find a way to catch up with us. It is in these moments of difficulty and discomfort that we have the opportunity to grow and become better versions of ourselves.

While it may be tempting to view challenges as setbacks or obstacles, we can shift our perspective to see them as opportunities for growth. Challenges force us to step outside of our comfort zones and push ourselves beyond what we thought was possible. They teach us resilience, perseverance, and adaptability. They show us how to find more Love, Courage and Compassion.

One of the keys to growing through challenges is to approach them with a growth mindset. Instead of viewing challenges as fixed and unchangeable, we can view them as opportunities to learn and improve. This mindset allows us to see challenges as a natural part of the learning process, rather than something to be feared or avoided. [1]

The more we start to perceive our challenges through the lense of growth and expansion, the easier it is to have and feel genuine gratitude for our challenges as they come up. By cultivating a sense of gratitude, we can find the energy and attitude we need to truly turn our challenges into opportunities for growth and transformation.

The simple key for finding our gratitude, is in seeing that this challenge is here to teach us something. The more we can find and learn that lesson, the easier life feels, and the more quickly our challenges transform.

1. Acknowledge the emotions that come up: When faced with a challenge, it's important to take a moment to acknowledge any heavy or painful emotions that may arise. Allow yourself to feel these emotions without judgment or resistance. Don’t try to change them, fix anything, or make yourself feel better. Just honor them. Feel them. Acknowledge them.
2. Question what you are here to learn: Next ask yourself what you are here to learn from this experience? What lessons can you take away from this challenge that will help you grow and become a better version of yourself?
3. Reflect on how you are being expanded into more love, courage, and compassion: As you begin to learn from the challenge, reflect on how this experience is helping you expand into more love, courage, and compassion. How is this experience shaping you into a more compassionate and resilient person?
4. See the experience as an opportunity to show up for what really matters: Finally, try to see this experience as an opportunity to show up for what really matters in your life. How can you use this challenge to help you clarify your values and priorities, and to focus on what truly matters to you? By doing so, you can transform this challenge into an opportunity for growth and transformation.

Pro Tip 🏆 If you truly want to be a PRO at Love, Courage and Compassion, dive into your biggest challenges in life through the above questions. The more we can find the growth and the learning that’s at the heart of even life’s most painful and most adverse situations, the more we experience that there is a flow: and a rhyme and reason to life, for good.

[1] Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The new psychology of success. Random House.

Honestly helping Fenix through his neurological disorder hasn’t felt like a challenge. It’s just life that feels most challenging to me sometimes.

Tough conversations with family. Coming to terms with how many humans are suffering so badly on this planet right now. Not being able to do more, for all the injustice that surrounds us. Grieving the loss of loved ones, both those we know, and those we don’t. And witnessing and FEELING so much of the pain and trauma we see in the world.

Life is NOT meant to be easy. It’s meant to grow us and ground us into what’s important and meaningful.

But the world makes money on quick fixes. This pill and this product and this program can make life seem like “just do this and life will be easy”.

And so it can be easy to fall into the trap that we must be doing something wrong if our life doesn’t feel like a piece of cake.

Please know that you ARE doing an amazing job. It’s ok if it feels tough, and tired and even terrible and traumatic sometimes.

Just keep learning and growing and most importantly loving.

And always remember…

We love you xoxoxo,

Zoe and Fenix