Why Do We Struggle with Asking for Help?
In today’s demanding world, seeking support is essential, yet it often feels difficult.
One of the biggest reasons is our fear of appearing weak or inadequate, ideas that society tends to reinforce.
But here’s the truth: asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Does This Pattern Resonate with You?
Do you sometimes feel reluctant to ask for help, or judge others who do?
In a culture that praises independence, it’s easy to fall into this trap.
But to truly succeed, we need to shift our thinking and recognize that seeking help is a strength, not a flaw.
Time for More Support, says Nora Bouchard
We often cling to self-reliance so tightly that our bodies have to tell us when it’s time to reach out.
Restlessness, increased frustration, or physical symptoms like headaches can all be signs.
As Nora Bouchard and Brené Brown explain, it can be tough to seek help in a culture of blame and shame.
Today’s Sacred Workout 💪
Let's Ask for MORE Help
Many parts of society have encouraged us to become self-sufficient and isolated because corporations can make more money if you’re looking to fix yourself, rather than build community.
So let’s dive into one practical way to get the Self-Courage and Self-Compassion we need to ask for help.
- What’s one thing you could use help with in your life right now? (We’re here to work out – to build our muscles. I don’t care how OK you feel, just think of one thing you COULD use help with. Just to work out this muscle.)
- How do you feel about asking someone for help with it? Be aware of where you feel it in the body? Is it a strong or subtle sensation? When was the first time you remember feeling THIS?
- What do you need, in order to ask for help?! Ask your feelings, what do THEY need in order to ask for help? Example: When I asked my fear what it needed, it said: I just need to know people will love me and not be put out and not like me.
- Give your fear, your feelings, the parts of you that struggle with asking for help – give them what they need, give them so much Love, Compassion, Hugs and Sweetness.
- Now go ask for help. Make it a small step. Remember we believe baby steps work best. But before the sun sets today, by text, or phone or carrier pigeon, ask one human being for help today! (Remember it’s about building this muscle. You don’t need to be on death’s door step to ask for help! But life is SO much better when we’re doing it together!)
